A Tribute to Tris

How can it only be a week since he left us?
It feels more like years.
We miss him so very much.

I wrote a tribute to Tris for Eric to read at the funeral.
Someone ask if I was going to write something
but there were just no words there.
No words would come.
One morning I gave up trying to sleep at 5am
and this poured onto the paper.


Oh Tris, how our hearts ache,
split open with pain like we’ve never known.

Tears spring up from a well that never runs dry.
Our laughter is turned to mourning,
our spirits heave with the heaviness of losing you.

We cry, we grieve, we weep, we mourn, but it’s all because of love.
You were so very loved, more then you will ever know.
We loved your big ways, everything you did was big.

Tris ice-cream

We loved your talking, loud though it was.
We knew when you were in the room,
we could hear you coming a mile away.
Your booming voice brought people to attention,
They listened when you spoke, they heard a man.
Oh, how we miss that big voice.

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We loved your care for our children.
Crying babies? Not a problem. You had it all under control.
“Let’s play kick ball you would say.”
and all the kids would come running.

After a game, they would hop in the jeep
and drive away on a ride with you.

How we’ll miss your care for them.

Tris jeepin

You were the one to call for everything, and how we loved that.
Something is broken, something quit,
“Call Tris,” we would say, “He can fix it!”
You were the one who called, ‘Just to talk!’
When our phones would ring with your picture,
we could hear your smile, your laugh.
Who will we call now?

You loved people, you were interested in everyone.
When you visited with someone, they knew you cared about them.
You had an interest in their lives.
A good viewing was your delight, so many people to talk to.
I’m only sad you missed your own.

Tris swing

Your little family, how you loved them.
Lisa was the perfect one for you.
Her quiet spirit kept your loud one under control.
You loved nothing more then to tease her and see her laugh.
Your firstborn, Katelyn, you were her anchor.
When she was hurt, when she cried, she wanted Daddy.
Aleigha, your right hand little lady.
She was often seen perched on her Daddy’s knee.
And little Grant, my, how proud you were of him.
He loved no one more then his Daddy,
waiting at the door every day for you to come home.
Who will fix their bikes, who will kiss their hurt away?
Who will tell them stories and tuck them into bed?
Who will say, “Come Lisa, it’s time to go!”

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There are so many things we loved about you,
so many things we’ll miss.

We’ll miss your singing, my but, how loudly you could sing.
Not always on key, but you sang from the bottom of your heart.
Your jokes, we spent half the time trying to figure out
if what you were saying was true.
There was your ever ringing phone and all the calls from farmers.
You would answer and then head outside to pace.
Your big long legs ate up miles of space, walking while you talked.
A good deal was never to be passed up on Craig’s list.
“What’s your bottom dollar?” you would say.
We’ll miss your big and in charge ways.
You were the leader, the pillar of our family.

Tris relaxed

We will never stop missing you.
A Tris shaped hole was been left in our hearts that will never be filled.
The life of the party has gone before us, what will we ever do?
We can only look to Jesus, whom you knew so well.
We know you kneel at his feet today,
we do too, crying, broken and pleading for help.

I will love and miss you for the rest of my life.
Keep singing for Jesus until I come. Your big sister, Shannon.

26 thoughts on “A Tribute to Tris

  1. My heart just breaks for you! He sounds like a wonderful brother!
    And oh, his wife & children. THAT tears my heart out.

    side note:He is only a couple months older than me.

    May God’s presence be ever so near to all of you, and give you STRENGTH.


  2. Just want to let you know our hearts ache with all of your hearts…Even though we didn’t know him personally we know he was a great guy because we know you and really appreciate you ,you are a very gifted lady and you use it for God’s glory and to bless other people including your beautiful young family. I always enjoy reading your posts there is a lot of feeling and love in them. We love you and you have been in our prayers I feel like I don’t know what to say because it just doesn’t seem to make sense that such a young vibrant loving son ,brother ,husband, and daddy was called home.. Yet he is so far ahead of us what an honor for him his work on earth was done but yet so sad and painful for those that have to go on and fine a new normal. May God’s grace carry you..

    Sent from my iPad



  3. All I can do is cry. I know too well the heartache and the tears. My heart aches for those children without their Daddy. May God give you grace for each new day without your brother, son, husband and daddy.


  4. Thanks Shannon for sharing this tribute to your brother! I never met your family, but the way it sounds your brother was just as awesome as you ! Great big hugs to each of you! Tris met his maker ! He will leave a huge gap. Prayers for you and the family . May you feel Gods wonderful grace like never before!!


  5. I’m crying for you all, and especially for his little family. I grew up without a daddy and i know the pain. Only God will carry them through, and they will each have their own individual story of how God met them in their pain. Talk often about your brother, it’s such a BIG part of the healing process!


  6. Your family has been on my mind a lot this past week! I watched part of the funeral on Saturday and wept with you. Tristan played in a volleyball tournament one year with my husband Josh and my sister Jennifer. They won. I remember him being such a nice friendly guy. Your tribute to him is so good. Also, I did girls camp with Lisa back in the day and I just feel so bad for her. I think I am feeling this so much because of the connections we had with both of them and the fact that we have three small children like they do. Prayers for grace and comfort in this time of deep sorrow.


  7. so so heart breaking, I feel so sad knowing the pain you all feel, the loss of someone so close impacts your life in big big ways. he sounds like a wonderful outstanding person, and I am so sorry he is not here. how exciting on that big reunion day, huh? ((hugs))


  8. Oh Shannon. Tears. Why do the good ones have to go?? I love how you expressed yourself here. I see and hear the bigness of your brother, a presence FELT. Sending you love and taking you to the Father who loves you all.


  9. Tris sounds like a man who loved people well and was obviously loved so much, too. I can’t imagine the pain of losing a sibling and especially so suddenly!! I just ache for you and Lisa and your whole family!


  10. I have no idea who u are as well as the family. But I cried gutch wrenching hot tears. My dad died when I was 2. (51 years ago.) I don’t know how my mom made it with 5 kids. I was the youngest. Family & friends pulled us through Reading it was a beautiful tribute to your brother. One day down the road we will see our loved ones again. That will be the most exciting day!! Prayers to everyone!!


  11. Oh my,so many wonderful memories. I do not personally know you, but I have walked the same path you are walking. Eleven years ago on August 1st my youngest brother, 30 years of age died in a car accident. He left a wife and three children, a son 4 years old, a daughter 3 years old, and an eighteen month old son.It is ironic I am reading this today as it would have been his 42nd birthday. We treasure the memories and still miss him.On those days when it seems like you think you can not make it through another day,reach out to the hand that is reaching out to you. Praying for God to give you all strength and courage to face the future. Keep the faith until that Great Reunion Day. Mary Ann Mast


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